10 Myths About Therapy That Keep You From Getting The Help You Deserve And What’s Really True
Feeling Unsure About Therapy? You’re Not Alone
Maybe you’ve thought about therapy but held back. Maybe you’re unsure if it’s the right fit or have heard things that made you skeptical. The truth is, you’re not alone in feeling this way. Many people hesitate to reach out because of common myths and misunderstandings about what therapy really is. These myths can make therapy seem scary, ineffective, or only for people with “big” problems.
If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking “therapy isn’t for me” or “I don’t need that,” this post is here to gently challenge those beliefs and open the door to what therapy can truly offer — a space for healing, growth, and renewed hope.
Myth #1: Therapy Is Only For People With Serious Mental Illness
Many people believe therapy is only necessary if you have a diagnosed mental illness like depression or anxiety disorder. This can make therapy seem inaccessible or irrelevant if you feel like your struggles don’t “qualify.”
The truth is therapy helps people at all stages of life. Whether you’re managing daily stress, navigating relationship struggles, feeling stuck in your career, or simply want to know yourself better, therapy offers valuable support. It’s not only for crisis moments but also for personal growth, self-awareness, and building emotional resilience.
Myth #2: Therapy Means Talking About Your Past Forever
You might worry that therapy means endlessly reliving painful memories or trauma. This can feel overwhelming and discourage people from seeking help.
In reality, therapy is about what matters to you, moving at your pace. While your past can be important, therapy focuses on helping you heal, develop skills, and build a meaningful present and future. Your therapist works with you to set goals that feel right.
Myth #3: Therapy Is Just Talking And Won’t Lead To Real Change
Some people believe therapy is passive – just talking without actionable results.
The truth is therapy is an active, collaborative process. A skilled therapist guides you through learning new perspectives, coping strategies, and tools to change thoughts and behaviors that don’t serve you. It’s about empowering you to make meaningful changes in your life.
Myth #4: Therapy Takes Years And Is Too Expensive
Many hesitate to start therapy because they think it requires a long-term commitment or will drain their finances. The image of someone lying on a couch for years talking endlessly about childhood is outdated and unhelpful. In reality, therapy is often focused, strategic, and time-limited. You might be surprised how much clarity and momentum a few sessions can bring. Modern approaches are designed to be practical and goal-oriented, helping you shift patterns, make decisions, or understand yourself more deeply.
While some people do long-term therapy, many find significant benefits in just a few sessions.
Think of therapy as an investment in yourself — the positive effects ripple across your relationships, work, and overall wellbeing. If cost is a concern, many therapists offer sliding scales or short-term treatment plans focused on your most pressing goals.
Myth #5: “I’ve Tried Therapy Once and It Didn’t Work — So It Never Will”
One of the most discouraging beliefs people carry is that a single disappointing experience means therapy just doesn’t work for them. Maybe the therapist felt cold. Maybe you didn’t click. Maybe it was the wrong time, or you weren’t sure what you needed. That happens — and it doesn’t mean you failed, or that healing is out of reach.
Therapy is not a one-size-fits-all process. The relationship between you and your therapist is deeply personal, and like any relationship, it takes time to build trust and understanding. Trying therapy once is like trying on one pair of shoes and deciding that none will ever fit. In reality, it might take trying on a few to find the one that feels right.
Myth #6: Going To Therapy Means You’re Weak Or Broken
It’s a common fear: needing therapy means something is wrong with you. That you should be able to “figure it out” on your own, or that asking for help is a sign of weakness.
But the truth is, it takes courage to look inward. It takes honesty to admit when something feels off, even if you can’t yet put it into words.
Yes, it can feel extremely vulnerable to open up about personal thoughts or past experiences — especially the ones you’ve never shared with anyone. But you’re not alone in that. Mental health professionals are trained to hold space for the things most people struggle to say out loud. They’ve heard the quiet doubts, the deep shame, the things you’ve convinced yourself are “too much.”
Therapy isn’t a sign that something is wrong with you. It’s a sign that something matters to you. And that’s powerful.
Myth #7: Therapy Is Mainly for Women
There’s a lingering stereotype that therapy is something women do, that it’s about “talking about feelings” and therefore not suited for men. The truth is, therapy is for anyone dealing with stress, pressure, relationships, or big life decisions — things that affect all of us.
Many men and other clients want something practical, focused, and solution-oriented — and that’s exactly what therapy can be.
It’s not about becoming emotional. It’s about becoming more clear-headed, more in control, and better equipped to handle life. You don’t need to be a certain type of person to go to therapy. You just need to want things to get better.
Myth #8: Therapists Will Judge You
One of the biggest reasons people avoid therapy is the fear of being judged. Most of us carry parts of ourselves we worry are too much, not enough, or simply unacceptable. Sharing those parts, especially with someone you do not know well, can feel extremely vulnerable. There is a natural fear that if you open up, you might be criticized or misunderstood.
Fear of negative judgment is deeply human. From an early age, many people learn to hide what they are really feeling. We adapt to our environments by keeping things in, putting on a strong front, or avoiding conflict altogether. Over time, this creates the belief that showing struggle will only lead to shame or rejection.
Therapy is different.
Therapy is different in that it can be one of those unique places where a skilled mental health professional holds space without judgment but with empathy.
Many people are surprised to find therapy becomes one of the few spaces where they can bring their full self and be met with compassion.
Myth #9: Therapists Only Validate My Emotions
Many people avoid therapy because they believe it will just be a space where someone listens and agrees with how they feel but does not actually help them change or solve their problems. This can feel frustrating and lead to doubts about whether therapy is truly effective.
In reality, while validation is an important part of therapy, a skilled therapist goes far beyond that. Therapists help you understand and make sense of your emotions which lays the foundation for real growth. From there, therapy guides you toward practical tools, new perspectives, and strategies tailored to your unique situation. A good therapist helps you build skills to manage difficult feelings, navigate relationships, and make decisions that align with your values. Therapy is an active process that combines empathy with actionable support helping you move from feeling stuck to feeling empowered.
Myth #10: Therapy Will Change You Into Someone You’re Not
Many worry that therapy means losing who they are or being forced to fit someone else’s idea of “healthy.” This fear can keep people from seeking help.
In truth, therapy should help you reconnect with your authentic self. It’s about discovering your values, strengths, and what truly matters to you. A good therapist helps you understand yourself more clearly and guides you toward making choices that reflect your values and goals.
About the Author
Jessica Miskiewicz is a Canadian Registered Clinical Counsellor, Psychotherapist and Owner of Journey Therapy. She offers compassionate virtual therapy designed to support individuals build resilience and meaningful change. Learn more at Journey Therapy or Book a Free 15 minute Consultation here.